Every precious, innocent child deserves a good childhood.  This includes you.  You should have been born to two loving, caring parents who worked together to make a happy home.  If you did not have that advantage, you got cheated, and that’s not fair.

It is not fair if you were born into dysfunctional circumstances.  It was not your fault if your parents divorced, or were abusive or were addicts or reprobates.  You should have had better.  You should have been given the tenderness, love, support, teaching, training and resources you needed to get a good start in life.  You deserve to have good memories of childhood, of being part of a warm family where you were made to feel that you were important and that you belonged.

If such is your lot, you have a right to feel cheated.  You have a right to cry and be sad about it, and angry because what happened to you was not right.  There is legitimate reason to feel bitterness, anger and resentment and these feelings need to be recognized and validated.

Once that is done, however, the question will be “Where do you go from there?”

After all, to embrace or cling to these emotions only prolongs and deepens the negative and debilitating effect they have on you.  Somehow, you must deal with what happened and move on.  If not, you will likely carry this evil baggage into the next generation of innocents who don’t deserve it any more than you did.

The resolution?  Come to God.  Let Him be your new Father, Jesus your new brother, the Holy Spirit your constant companion and the Lord’s church your new family. God will forgive you of your wrongs, so you will be free to forgive others.

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” 
- Matthew 11:28-30