The apostle Thomas is often remembered as a doubter because he refused to believe in the resurrection until he saw Jesus for himself, according to the gospel of John 20:19-29.

Earlier, however, when Jesus had determined to return to Judea where his life was in danger it was Thomas who said to the rest of the apostles, "Let us go also, that we may die with him", John 11:16. Any way you cut it, that’s a pretty fervent commitment. Knowledge of both of these incidents allows us a little more range of choice as to how we will think of Thomas. 

Do we tend to remember the negative aspects of one another rather than the positive? 

Having done both, I find my mind much more at peace when I try to give others the benefit of the doubt (without being naïve), recalling their virtues, rather than always reminding myself of their vices. 

I also really appreciate it when people who know my failings consistently and lovingly focus on the more positive aspects of my character. There is a merciful God among us who does that for me constantly. He alone knows all of the negatives that could be used to characterize me otherwise. Yet, He loves me in spite of my weaknesses.

No wonder. Jesus said, “In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets”, Matthew 7:12. He has always practiced this principle, long before He preached it to us.

With some folks, it is easy to see the positives. I challenge you instead to think of those who may often get on your nerves. Start looking for the positives in their lives to emphasize and encourage. If you can learn to do it with them and for them, you will soon find out that you are doing it to your own benefit.

After all, we know we are of sinful stock. Why choose to constantly remind ourselves of that when we have a Savior Who has not forgotten that He designed us in His Own image?