All too often I hear of someone tragically taking their own life. Having presided over funerals for such folks and having attempted to comfort survivors, I want to put something out there again, to encourage anyone who may be considering suicide to reconsider. Please, reconsider.
I haven’t been where you are, so I don’t pretend to understand all you are going through. I would like to hear your side. Until then, here are just a few things I believe you need to know:
- The rest of us want you to keep going, to live. Even if it doesn’t show, we care about you. You are a unique human being like the rest of us and we are connected by our humanity even if we don’t know you.
- Regardless of who you are, you have the potential to do much good that will benefit others. Right now, someone needs what you have to offer. You have God-given gifts. Please stay with us so for the benefit of those who need what you have.
- Losing you will hurt every right-thinking person who hears of your death. It will hurt most, those you care about the most.
- If you need help of any kind there is someone who is willing to provide it. We just need to get you connected.
- Regardless of what may seem to be crushing you, it is not worth your life.
- If you press on with life, you can be a source of strength to others who are struggling. Conversely, your decision to die may weaken the resolve of others to go on.
- Everything in God’s universe has purpose. This is especially true of you, as you are created in God’s image. Keep going until you have discovered your purpose.
- If guilt is troubling your soul, killing yourself will right no wrong. You can only make amends if you live.
- You need to know that your survivors will likely see your suicide as a selfish act.
- Your pain may turn out to be one of the best teachers you’ve ever had. The rest of us need to hear the lessons it has taught you.
- God does his best work with the biggest, baddest, most seemingly insurmountable problems. That's what the cross of Jesus Christ is all about.
- Death will not be the end of your pain, but it will end your opportunity to do something about it.
Contact me. Contact someone. Call me selfish, but I do not want to hear of another fellow traveler through time who has cut theirs short.